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(note: This is another “repost”…this time from a post I made for the “Tarheel Diversity” blog that I believe is now defunct. jb)

Have you ever really thought about why you believe what you believe? The truth is, we’re all trying to figure out who we are, what we believe, and what we stand for. In many ways, that’s what life on a college campus is all about. The academic term for that is “identity development”, and you’ve been at it for a long time. Read the rest of this entry »


(note: This is the second in the “student development 101” series that used to live on the RCblog and is reposted here. Aimed at the parents of the young men I work with, please forgive the masculine pronouns…I’m on a deadline. jb)

Think for a moment about teaching a child to tie their shoes. If you hand the child a pair of Nike’s and say, “Here, kid, lace ‘em up,” they will probably give it a try, but quickly give up in frustration. On the other hand, if you tie their shoes for them every time without asking them to give it a try (and help them through the process), you will likely still need to tie their shoes during their first year of college!

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(note: this is a “repost” of an item I wrote for the RCblog a couple of years back. We’ve changed the blog around, and this was deleted. I did discover that I needed it again, so I repost.  The male pronouns are because I work with men primarily. jb)

Simply defined, a transition is the process of moving from one form of “normal” to the next. After the September 11th terrorist attacks, columnist Leonard Pitts, Jr. wrote that “normal” is not a fixed place on the map…but rather a point that is situational. In any transition, there is uncertainty and a certain degree of discomfort until you find your new “normal”. Read the rest of this entry »